tuesday.

Feb. 6th, 2024 06:57 am
sunfright: (lost signal)




Despite the joy I feel re: my writing at the moment, I can also feel an imbalance and more existential dissatisfaction haunting me these days. I haven't been entirely sure what's up with that until I had a long talk with my girlfriend yesterday and we settled on it being at least in part rooted in my ambivalence towards being social. It's such a balance act, how I feel generally very lonely and yet, I don't have the energy or motivation for socialising and I, due to my bullying trauma, don't feel comfortable in social interaction situations. The Internet is good for this, because there's no exposure, but it can also be very lonely, since sometimes it does feel like you're just yelling into a void.

Roleplaying is a good in-between activity in regards to this struggle, because on one hand it takes place online and you're not facing anyone in person - on the other, it still is a social sphere with separate social norms, rules, etiquette and the like that you kinda have to adopt to make anything work. So, it has both worlds, the together but apart division. I like that. But even in RP, I've felt dissatisfied lately. One thing is a general problem with attention span and sticking to one character over a longer period, which makes most interaction fleeting as it is, but another is how I'm often triggered on a basic "I don't understand the rules of this world and I can't read the room as a result" level and that can make it even more difficult staying in a thread, a plotline or whatever.

Well, K. and I talked it over some and I think, what I am really missing, since I mostly play in memes - loose, singular setting scenarios - is a setting that is firmer and has more defined premises. A game would do this, but I haven't been in a game properly for almost ten years and have been reluctant to try it on my own. This was where K. was so kind as to offer apping into a game with me, to stay by my side as I found my feet in the social ranks. She wouldn't be as active as me, evidently, since she has a full-time job and such, but she would give it a go for me.

That feels a lot like love, to be honest. It feels nice. And it feels like something I might want to try, just to expose myself a little bit to some socialising again.

Anyway, it could be a place to start, so that might happen over the next couple of months.

Right now, we're working with the idea of apping in with Anton (my character) and Jonathan from our original, historical universe set in Denmark. We still need to research more etc., but it's an option that appeals to us both, which is always the trick, finding those, with the two of us. Our tastes are very different. Next difficult step would be to land on a game that appeals to us both as well. But I've begun game hunting and will keep an eye on what opens during spring, too.

I'm excited for it, I think.

I think.


tuesday.

Jan. 16th, 2024 09:16 am
sunfright: Logan Marshall-Green with the text  "fuck". (lady)




No word from my doctor, so I assume the lithium levels looked fine. That's a relief, at least.



Yesterday was some day. The trip downtown to get everything took its toll on me and I was completely worn out for the rest of the day, went to bed early, after we'd watched the final episode of the first season of Our Flag Means Death. But I got the gift card for my friend for her birthday on Saturday, I got new tea (caramel-flavoured!), supplies for the DIY decoupage project and a covid self-test because my friend's girlfriend is sensitive to vira and infections, so all the guests at the party have to self-test before showing up, just in case. And I picked up research material at the library. Sooooooo... many... books! I think there were eleven titles waiting for me, and I had to drag them home in public transport. My arms were hurting, some of them were really quite heavy, thick tomes. There are still five left on my reservations list, so they should be available within the next couple of weeks, too.



The plans for today are very, very sparse. I have to preserve a lot of energy for Saturday and I have my social workeer coming by tomorrow, so the other days need to be kept even more lowkey to compensate. Today I will be doing a lot of reading, I hope. I have a biography of the great Danish stage actress, Johanne Luise Heiberg - who lived and worked first half of the 19th century - to read in part and some non-fiction books to skim through, mainly one on the development of the Royal Theatre over the past four hundred years (though, I only need the articles on the 1880's), but also a very interesting introduction to the historical Copenhagen of Herman Bang's (Danish author who came to prominence in the 1880's, known queer) day and age. Besides that, I have some non-fiction books on the labour movement led by the maids of the bigger Danish cities in the late 19th century, 19th century general views on food and drink and similar topics. I also picked up two books for K. whose character is a businessman, so I found a biography on Tietgen, a business mogul at that point in time, as well as some non-fiction analyses of Danish involvement in the World Fairs of the late 19th century which should tie into her character's work and interests, too.



When I'm not going to be reading, I'll be doing the shopping (dinner for tonight and tomorrow), and take out trash (we've accumulated a lot of cardboard, paper and plastic waste) and generally keeping it nice and clean at home. I also need to call my mom.



My aspiration over the coming days is to write a story, in Danish, about Margrethe - my character's introduction to her career at the theatre. It is very dramatic and character developmentally interesting, and I would love to delve into it in depth.


tuesday.

Jan. 2nd, 2024 09:06 am
sunfright: Eleanor Morris (RDB) as a sylph in a photobook series. (sunsetting)




New Year happened. I hate New Year. It went fine and we had nice food and went to sleep early and we promised each other another year in the name of love and care and creativity together, K. and I, but I hate New Year. That feeling of "new beginnings" and "New Year resolutions", change and starting over. I hate it.

Maybe that's part of what has been weighing on me the past couple of days especially. I've been intensely creative, getting back into Takarazuka has really got me flying, but that kind of inspiration also takes its toll and today, this morning, I had to take a step back, look at the stress and restlessness I felt and think: wait, is everything all right?

I think I'm slightly hypomanic at the moment. That, or it's a mixed state. I haven't heard much from my bipolar in a year's time, so it took me a while to recognise it, but I think that's what's going on. Hopefully, now that I've pinpointed it, I can do what's necessary to ensure it doesn't turn into a nosedive. I'm trying to stay focused on a few things, creatively, and reducing my input of impressions as much as possible. Most importantly, no stress.

Hope everyone got started on the right foot on 2024!



Talking about Takarazuka. For those interested, Hanagumi's 2014 Elisabeth has been uploaded to YouTube again. It's complete with subs and everything. Check it out before it gets taken down again, it's already been up 3 weeks, so it's probably last chance! LINK! Asumi Rio isn't my favourite Death, but omg, Ranno Hana is definitely one of my favourite Elisabeths, especially in act 1!! The whole supporting cast in this is excellent, Lucheni... Franz... SOPHIE!



Once K. starts working again in two days time, I'll try to start writing my Yamashita Revue story. I think it's novella length and will start out with that scope in mind. If it grows longer, that's okay, too. I've changed my focus to another character (I have a line-up of maybe five or six at this point), and she is damn cute, that's all I've got to say. She's a bit atypical for my kind of main, so that should be fun to write! It's going to be a story with a focus on character development over romance, although there's a romance storyline to it, too. Very inspired by Tawara Machi's tanka these days...



Also rediscovered Rie Fu, incidentally, and am obsessed with her "I" album. It's so good.



Later today, I'm going downtown to pick up a birthday present and browse the mall, just to get that sense of 'getting out' and normal routines. Tomorrow, my social worker should come by. Don't know what we're doing yet. That bothers me for some reason.



I hope it isn't an indicator for how things will be in 2024.


tuesday.

Dec. 12th, 2023 07:15 pm
sunfright: Logan Marshall-Green with the text  "fuck". (screech owl)




A bit of a chaotic day, to say the least.

I went to the library, the library was nice. I managed to finish my two chapter editing there, though I was still feeling self-conscious from the Facebook incident yesterday and didn't do my best. I've reread the seventh chapter this afternoon and done more work, hoping to do chapter eight tonight before bed.

While there, I forgot to take my morning pills, so my mood was slightly shot all day as a result. It's evening out now, since I took my night pills early at dinner. Might also help my editing process some.



Bought all the stuff I needed to do the birthday present for my friend, who's turning 30 in January (yes, I like to buy and make pressies ahead of time, if possible). It's a lovely gilded picture frame with a collage I've made in it. All greens, plants and feminism, since those are things she likes. It's come out quite nice.

After doing that bit of shopping, I bought another tea (third this month, but it's peak tea drinking time of the year), a black tea which is unusual for me, I usually stick to white and, if all else fails, green tea. But this was a cream tea and it smelled amazing and wasn't expensive, so I bought a small bag of it. It's not the best cream tea I've ever had, but far from the worst, too, and very comforting with its soft, rounded flavour.



Girlfriend came home late from work, due to a project she's working on, and I had dinner ready when she got there. It was rye bread day, so we just had some tuna mousse and salmon spread on bread, basically, but it's quick and simple, so on these kinds of days, that's just how we get by.



I slept for a couple of hours after I got home from town, so I might have to stay up a little bit longer tonight to be able to fall asleep comfortably.

Also, LOL, my parents are coming by for tea on Saturday, a fact I'd apparently forgotten to tell K. about, hahaha, says something about how busy December has been. We had a long talk over dinner about what to do about it, what prepwork we needed to do. We have cleaning day Friday, so that's perfect, but some shopping must also be done. We have something in Denmark, a traditional Christmas pastry, called "æbleskiver" which translates to "slices of apple", because back in the day, they were fried balls of dough with slices of apples in them. However, these days, it's just fried dough in a small ball-shape that you eat with jam and sugar on the side. They're quite yummy. Anyway, we were talking about making some of those and serve them with the tea/coffee they're getting. It's just a couple of hours my parents are staying, so it's not like a lunch appointment or anything, but something sweet and warm would be nice.



After I settled on Lest They Leave, I've completely stopped my search for titles. It just feels like the perfect title for this project and it's so me, tbh. So I think that's my sign, this is it.



The plan for tomorrow is chapter 9 + 10 editing, then tidying up in the apartment a bit, wrap S's present and probably some shopping for dinner, unless we take something out of the freezer tonight. We have a lot of soup that we should get working on.



I guess that's the update. That was the day.


tuesday.

Dec. 12th, 2023 05:01 am
sunfright: Susanne Grinder and J'aime Crandall as Marguerite and Manon in The Lady of the Camellias. (manonique)




I'm up very, very early, but also planning on going into town relatively early (8am) to get a spot at the library and do first half of my daily read-through/editing rounds there. Like I said, just a change of scenery. My usual library (although not the one closest to me) is open from 8am onwards till late in the evening. I'm not going to be there all day, though. Planning to sit in until around 10-11am and then, walk into town (it's a stone's throw from our main shopping district) and pick up some things at a hobby store there. Once I've done that, I'll grab a bus home.

And I'll most likely need a nap when I get back. Outings like this, while vital to my sanity, always take a toll on me. I'm literally wiped afterwards, especially these days where everything is extra busy thanks to the holidays.



Doing first editing round of chapter 7 right now. I'm a bit down on my confidence. And for a stupid reason. Yesterday, I advertised for a beta reader at a Danish Facebook group and posted my pitch for this novel to show what kind of story people would be signing on for, and two women replied, both to tell me that my English wasn't good. One of them rewrote my entire pitch and said, but it's okay, I know English sentence structure is hard, I'm a grad student in English at university.

And while part of me was like, okay, yeah, I know that, but my English is fine, my writing is a stylistic choice, the bullied part of me immediately recoiled and I've felt a little bit uncertain and embarrassed about my English since. Like, even now, writing this, I have this feeling that "I'm bad at English" which I logically know isn't the case.

So, yeah. Editing today is gonna be an interesting experience, after that... I just hope I'll feel a bit uplifted once I'm done.

I was so proud of this story 24 hours ago. Now, I just feel insecure and question everything. Even things that don't have shit to do with my English, but is to do with how I've decided to tell the story. Ugh.



My parents are coming for holiday celebrations (since we aren't spending X-mas with them this year, but with K's parents) and X-mas present pickup on Saturday and I'm a bit torn on it. On one hand, I kinda look forward to it. On the other, I am as always apprehensive and preparing for the chance that it might be awkward and not... well, just awkward. At least, I'm in a better place mentally, so I should be able to navigate it more successfully than in the past.

Here's to hoping.



Editing should be over by Friday. That's one thing off my shoulders. Then, once my parents go home Saturday afternoon, I have a week that I need to fill out with something, because the X-mas craze really starts. We're staying home this year, because K's parents live right next door (not literally, but almost), so we can walk home from their place easily. The 23rd, a friend of mine is dropping by for tea while K's out on X-mas visits with her parents. After that, 23rd and 24th, I am foreseeing I'll be completely mentally mauled, so will probably need a few days to rest it out.

Those are my X-mas plans this year.


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